Our Bodies— Erectile Dysfunction

The last two years have been really hard on my husband and I. Why you ask? It is because my husband is Impotent he has erectile dysfunction. That all male dreaded word that should never be spoken… You probably are asking why doesn’t he use Viagra or Cialis or some other medical treatment.  Well, He can’t they don’t work unless he gets surgery to put in a prosthetic and he really doesn’t want to do that. We have tried other treatments He gets semi hard then loses the erection we tried the pump he says it hurt him ( and truthfully after sitting their waiting and pumping and waiting and hoping it doesn’t hurt when you get the band on it can be painful and a turnoff).

I went through all the stages of grief Denial, anger, blame/bargaining, depression,   acceptance. I am now at the acceptance portion of the grief I will never ever feel my husband that intimately again. I am now trying to find an intimacy that we can do to feel closer together.Finding that intimacy with a difficult man is very challenging. Yes my husband is the most stubborn person I know besides myself. I don’t think he has made it through all the stages yet and I really want to feel that closeness we used to have. So I have been looking through all the stuff on erectile dysfunction and  How to find intimacy with your partner. The biggest thing that stood out was to explore each others bodies. Trying to do that when the other person still feels very self conscious is frustrating. But I really am trying to be patient.  I want to explore and feel him explore but only time will tell.

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Perceptions

What is up with People(Adults, Teens, Men and Women ? I have been stewing for days wondering why we aren’t banding together? I just don’t understand how Adults and teens can allow things to happen that they see with their own eyes. People need to start standing up and speaking out. If they see something happening record it. Call the Police give them the information. Just don’t watch brush it off and say its not your problem. When it is… It really Is… Now I know your wondering what in the world I am talking about. I want you to really think about this. It is everything immoral… Everything that you wouldn’t want to happen to you… Everything that you wouldn’t want to happen to the most loved person in your world… It has to do with Violence, murder, rape (rape being anything that was not consented to that could have happened while drugged, a sleep, awake, a child unable to stop it), Rumors whether true or not true(Shouldn’t be re said or some one should discreetly go up to the person inform them and say that they are there to help or there to help stop it.), Bullying, the mentally ill (this really needs to be addressed to many mentally ill that can hurt people are out on the streets instead of in an institution to keep themselves as well as others safe), brutality against gays or people of color or nationality.

Too many children, Women, Teen girls are being violated. India has the idea.. We need to protest the violence against Women, Children, and others. The United states in no exception. We need the Violence against women act. But is it going to pass? Probably not since the Rich White GOP men on Capital hill think women are a just there to procreate.  They are more for taking our rights to abortion and contraception. They also want to violate us by sticking probes inside our vagina. When a man has to go through what we go through I will be all for it until then it is not there business. They need to stay out of  privacy and work on laws to protect our most vulnerable people. Examples are the woman in California Raped by a man she though at first to be a boyfriend while she slept woke up to find it was not the court said that since the boyfriend wasn’t a husband a case of mistaken identity rape was thrown out. Another case is the High school football team in  Steubenville that roofied a girl then dragged her everywhere and raped her several times in their car to throw her on her front lawn when they where done Then post the pictures and everything else on the web; yet these people think it is the girls fault I think not especially since she is underage. Just glad that Anonymous brought it to everyone’s attention. How much more violence do we need to stop this from happening.  It saddens me, scares the crap out of me that this may happen to me, my daughter, my mother, my sisters, or any male member of my family.

Me personally am fed up with this..  I talked to my children about it. Told them it was never right to do anything above. Talked to my son about it the rape by the high school kids. This should never happen. Should never happen in this day and age.  And I hope everyone takes a stand if they see this happening even if they have to contact the FBI in order to get it taken care of..

I feel I need to give my verbal support to all those that have had this happen in the present, have seen something like this happen and don’t know what to do. Just make your self think if you are feeling as if this is not right then help the person it is happening to. Either by calling the cops, grabbing the person and taking them out of the situation even if that mean taking them to the hospital for their own good saying it was rape and who did it. Calling parents anyone with authority don’t be afraid to be the odd person out if you don’t feel uncomfortable with what is going on.

New Years Resolutions

I hope everyone had a happy holiday and is going to drive safely home.

I have made a few resolutions.

1. Lose weight with exercise and eating better.(My first book I wrote is a Exercise food journal with Exercises included.  Not something I can give away though seeing that the pictures are not mine but if I look better I will modify the pictures with my own and give it away as a PDF or something.)

2. To Blog at least once a week ( I am just not the writer type but I have a blog and it is my responsibly to use it).

3. To make a book of shadows by hand. ( I made my first book just yesterday,printed it out and well its not a book of shadows but at least I am over the hurdle of I don’t know what I am doing to I can improve on this probably should right a blog about how I did it and what it is about with pictures).

4.  To get my Garden in tip top shape with the help of my family.( I always feel overwhelmed when summer starts because the weeds and bugs can get out of control but I have figured out how to take out the weeds with vinegar and use a mosquito net for the bugs.)

5. Finish my Green house.  I started a Green house but it is still unfinished. I need to fix my design. It flopped over in the wind. Will probley sink some 4 x 4 s down in the middle of it and either strap the greenhouse to them.

6. Finish making my mothers poncho, and knit all my nieces and nephews something especially just for them. so that they will have a piece of me and something really nice that would cost a lot of money otherwise.

7.  Stop reading so much. YES this is my addiction. I need to ween my self away I can read about a 400 page book in a day and I really need to do other things.

8. Start building my house. Yes I am building my own house from the ground up. I need a bigger place that has two regular bedrooms and family bathroom,  a master bedroom with master bath, bookshelves everywhere, Large walk in closet, Nice large kitchen, living room, dinning room and breakfast nook, also this house is going to have a fire place need it for when the power goes out.  I will probley only get the roof and the bedrooms in the first six months due to the fact that I work 40 hours a week but it is better than nothing.

I think that is everything I really need to cover and get done this year.

Hope everyone has a great year.

My Earth Centered Spirituality and my family

Okay, So I have been thinking about bringing my children and husband in on my journey through my Spirituality. Of course I can’t say that my husband will agree with it but he will listen to me. I just think my family has a lot of conflict and we need to find our balance again.

We Wiccans officially don’t have a doctrine per say but we do have a way of life a culture. Nature is in harmony our families should be in harmony also. With a respect to each other. Our roots are indigenous we actually plant them, feel them in our hands, hear  and smell it in the air we are at home with ourselves in Nature. And my family has move away from that and we need to get back into that   mind set.  The mother birthed us all and my children should understand that Earth is our home and we should respect her. They should understand that we need to connect to her in all things from the seasons, to the animals and plants, to the weather; basically all of the natural world.

Of course, the way that they come to their conclusions is there own but we must all go down our own paths in order to get there. I don’t know how I am going to get them to agree especially my son but I must try to include them in my life.

I am thinking baby steps I have already fully brought over my holidays into their lives we celebrate all major Wiccans holidays. Perhaps next I will try with meditation.

Samhain– Halloween—

I hope everyone had a happy Samhain… I was so busy I didn’t get a chance to write.

So Samhain was a good day. I think next year I will plan it a bit differently for my Children. We didn’t go out trick or treating. I decided to stay in. I made a special dinner. We carved pumpkins. Had a pumpkin pie that turn out horrible because I thought I would try a new recipe. We feed the animals some biscuits I made for them out of another bad recipe.  (Moral of story try the recipe before feeding it to family). But we had a fun night in. Since my daughter is still a bit young we didn’t talk about our celebration of our loved ones that have passed on.

 

Wicca: A Year and a day

I decided that I needed to learn more about Wicca. Every aspect. I may not believe in magic but that doesn’t mean that meditation, prayer, ritual and everything that goes along with it isn’t magical in someway or perhaps I just don’t understand what magic really is. Anyway I have started a book. I am pretty isolated where I live. Living in the bible belt there are not many pagans, Wiccans, druids, etc. that show who they really are. So I have always taught myself the Wiccan Way Through books.  So When I Saw WICCA: A Year and A Day By Timothy Roderick I got this overwhelming feeling that I needed it. I usually go with my intuition on things so when I got some money together I went and bought it. I will try to tell you of my journey as much as possible but I don’t think I can express everything in words. When the time comes though I will try.

What every Women should know about our rights!!!!

Up until very recently (I would say within the last 30-40 years) women had to ask there husbands permission to do anything. I remember when my grandmother told me in order for her to get her own bank account she had to have my grandfather there or they wouldn’t allow her to have a bank account. Even then she said they both had a hard time making the bank officials make it so that she was the only one on the account. I can’t remember why she needed her own account just that it was a savings account and papa said that she needed her own money. My Grandmother also told me a story of how she lost my twin Uncles because a Doctor wouldn’t listen to her and kept telling her everything would be fine, it wasn’t they died just days before they where born. I have read many women’s blogs on the internet about their stories of sexism in the workforce, blunt discrimination, utter humiliation, and other history I wish that wouldn’t have happened is still happening, and men that believe it even now in our own free country.

There are just a few historical areas I read (see the bottom of post). What I don’t understand is that in this day in age after women’s Suffrage, voting rights and education. That there are men out there that think that just because we don’t have a penis, have a mind, want to plan our families, make a name for ourselves, and do what we want with out a man around that they still want to control our lives, decisions, and try to make us beneath them in every way possible. I am just glad I am pagan and don’t believe all that other religious crap. My father is atheist and believes that every one of his girls (there are 4 of us) should be independent. Yes I have a husband but I am the bread winner of my family. I took birth control my children are eight years apart. I have several degrees of course they are all undergraduate degrees but that was all we could afford and one was by accident. My husband is not controlling he is supportive of me. I vote at every election I know about. I know about all the major elections. I tell my daughter and son that they both need to be self sufficient and not depend on anyone because it could happen I may not be there, or their husband or wife may not be there.

The Wikipedia definition of Sexism, also known as gender discrimination or sex discrimination, is defined as prejudice or discrimination based on sex; or conditions or attitudes that foster stereotypes of social roles based on sex.[1] Sexist attitudes are frequently based on beliefs in traditional stereotypes of gender roles. Sexism is not just a matter of individual attitudes, but is built into many societal institutions.[2] The term sexism is most often used in relation to discrimination against women,[3][4][5][6][7] in the context of patriarchyPatriarchy is a social system in which the male acts as the primary authority figure central to social organization, and where fathers hold authority over women, children, and property. It implies the institutions of male rule and privilege, and entails female subordination. Many patriarchal societies are also patrilineal, meaning that property and title are inherited by the male lineage.

Wow, when I read this I thought no wonder my Grandmother had to tell me her story. We were no more then Property and slaves back then even though in my Grandmothers time we had the vote, suffrage.

When men (politician men, religious men) don’t even know how the female body works and try to dictate policy on health, birth control, what is rape/incest and abortion with out consulting females themselves; I just want to scream ” THERE IS A WAR ON OUR NATION, A WAR ON WOMENS RIGHTS, A WAR OF CHOICE, A WAR ON WHAT IS RAPE and WHY OH WHY ARE THEY TRYING TO TAKE AWAY PLANNED PARENTHOOD WHEN THEY DO SO MUCH FOR THE POOREST WOMEN I EVEN USED THEM WHEN I WAS YOUNGER FOR HEALTH CARE….”( I can’t believe ,yet have to,  that there are men whom seem to think there is a such thing as  legitimate rape and that planned parenthood does only abortions which is untrue. ) *smirk*. MEN should not have the right to tell me what is best for my body without consulting me my husband consults with me about my health. I should be able to talk to my FEMALE doctor and ask her advice then should be able to consult with another doctor if I think I need to do so. I know men feel the same way why would they want women to direct the health care, their sex life if they need Viagra or any other medication, medical surgery for sterilization, and so on.

There are many other reasons to get an abortion, or to be on birth control other then the reasons that are officially given. The life of the mother (child birth is nothing to laugh at it is dangerous for women and many women die each year trying to have a baby) if it will save the mother I am all for it, if the mother wants to try to have to baby yet can’t make it till the fetus is viable and it will kill her and the baby. Take the baby. The woman’s life is more valuable than an unborn child, especially if she already has children.

Women every year find out they need birth control for problems other than for controlling whether eggs pop out such as fibroids, PMS, and other female problems of the uterus.

So although many people are trying to force the issue of taking women back to the days of suppression when we didn’t have rights. I am not one who will stand by and allow this to happen.  I have to write and speak. I don’t want to go back to when Men thought we were property. To when Men had everything and we had nothing. TO WHEN RELIGION SAID WE ARE NOTHING BUT VESSELS FOR MALES. I am equal. I am a female yes. But I a smart woman, mother, wife, and I can make my own decisions about my health, about whom I love, about my life will end up as. Because in the end we may be all judged, karma has a way of coming back to us all but the Goddess and God knows our circumstances. I believe that things happen for a reason and must learn for the reasons given for the choices made. We can’t make others choices for them they must make them for themselves. We can’t intervene in choices made by the individual about themselves all we can do is support the individual in their choice.

http://www.jstor.org/discover/10.2307/349851?uid=3739848&uid=2129&uid=2&uid=70&uid=4&uid=3739256&sid=21101163423051

http://www.dadsnow.org/index2.html this is a very interesting History

http://qwertyuiops.wordpress.com/2010/09/21/history-of-sexism-and-its-effect-on-religion/

http://rethinkinghistory.blogspot.com/2010/08/historical-roots-of-western-sexism.html

http://ncronline.org/news/politics/bishops-say-obama-compromise-unconstitutional

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/05/20/opinion/sunday/the-attack-on-women-is-real.html

http://www.post-gazette.com/stories/opinion/perspectives/well-it-is-a-war-republicans-have-tried-to-limit-womens-rights-at-every-turn-639149/

http://www.aljazeera.com/programmes/insidestoryus2012/2012/08/2012829103225925202.html

http://www.aljazeera.com/programmes/faultlines/2012/08/20128288841399701.html

http://www.post-gazette.com/stories/opinion/perspectives/well-it-is-a-war-republicans-have-tried-to-limit-womens-rights-at-every-turn-639149/?p=2

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/08/rep-john-conyers-violence-against-women-act-vawa_n_1499822.html

http://www.plunderbund.com/2012/05/23/what-every-girl-should-know/

http://www.dailykos.com/story/2012/03/01/1069980/-We-re-All-Feminazis-Now-Limbaugh-s-Long-History-of-Sexism

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/cifamerica/2011/jun/21/walmart-women-class-action

http://blogcritics.org/books/article/book-review-sexism-in-america-alive1/ hum will have to read this book.

http://www.wearewoman.us/2012/03/history-of-womens-rights-in-united_18.html

 

Organization, Thoughts, and Ideas

While organizing my favorites, the web kind, (which mind you is a chore because if I did it to begin with it wouldn’t take hours). I started to think why didn’t I do this to begin with. Because of the type of person I am. I am one to get interested in something and just start the focus on that. Like now I am supposed to be organizing my favorites and decided to blog about it instead. Funny I know but I am just an idea type person.  But I couldn’t stop myself.

SO anyway I was going through them and came across several sites on Being Frugal and Green and though I should share these others might like to know about these amazing places I found on the web while doing research on one thing or another. (Which by the way is always funny because my mind goes so many different directions I even have a journal so I can go back over those ideas that I have and see if someone has done it better or perhaps I can take some else’s idea and make it better.) Which I recommend to everyone; I even tell my children if they think of something write it down you never know if you idea is a good one until its thought out and wrote out.  So check out these places

Also if anyone else knows of fantastic places on the web please share… ALWAYS interested.

http://ana-white.com/  DIY furniture place

http://www.mnn.com/lifestyle/responsible-living/photos/7-things-you-can-make-instead-of-buying/cleaning-supplies  this explains it self

Easy Recipes for Natural Homemade Cleaners

GOOD Instructions: How to Spring Clean With Nontoxic Home-made Products – Environment – GOOD

How to Make a Non-Toxic Cleaning Kit | Care2 Healthy Living

Seven Surprising Uses for Baking Soda – Health – GOOD

An Oregon Cottage: How To Clean And Care For A Cast Iron Pan (Or How I Learned To Love Cast Iron) I have several and my hubby still doesn’t take care of them right *shrug* I try but I just put them away so he doesn’t rust them

Mauby’s: Re-usable Produce Bag Tutorial

Heating Pad Tutorial | The Green Wife

Dollar Store Crafts » Blog Archive » Make Reusable Swiffer Covers

Frugally Sustainable A good blog I love to read

In Between Laundry: A Year of Sugar Scrubs – 24 Original Recipes

How to make Hand Cream. Homemade Hand cream and hand lotion recipes I make my own recipes usually with just oils and beeswax and essential oil lavender. 

Homemade Lip Balm | FIMBY this is what my lip balm looks like basically.

Make Chalk Rocks and Homemade Chalk Board Paint – The Idea Room

Fabric Storage Boxes (per your request) | Make It and Love It

http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/2009/12/homemade-creative-play-gift-ideas.html

http://blogs.babble.com/family-kitchen/2011/09/10/10-recipes-everyone-should-know-how-to-make/                I tend to agree everyone should know how to make these recipes..

For Women ONLY area unless you really want to know Men!!!

Homemade Sanitary Pads | Hillbilly Housewife Yes I actually use these during my spotting times. During the heavy times I use a regular sanitary napkin because if I don’t it is a mess I am a really heavy bleeder for two days its almost like hemorrhaging.

Asking the Goddess and God for Rain

The Drought has really taken it toll where I live in Oklahoma. I have been asking the Goddess and the God to give us rain for several weeks now. We have stared to receive rain. And I am Grateful. I am going to continue to ask for rain though because we still really need it.

I talk to the Mother more then I do the Father I feel we have a kinship. So when I am sitting around being calm I talk to her from my heart. Talk to her about how my day went. Talk to her about anything about the good and the bad. I ask her for water for the animals and plants. To help me provide for those that are in need.

Green Wiccan

New Facebook interface

https://www.facebook.com/GreenWiccan

Since I seem to be on face book more than here I decided that it would be nice to do a group of sorts. Hope you all join me.

Losing weight

I hate trying to lose weight. All I can say is this last year I have been the laziest person around. I eat right but I love my sweets so I am constantly eating too much. I am going through the Atkins low carbohydrate system so far I have lost a few pounds. But feel my husband is not helping me but sabotaging me. He too need to lose weight and know this. His health is horrid with diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, etc. I love him very much but I don’t feel like he is on my side. I have been having to make my own food just so he doesn’t throw in carbs such as pasta, or bread on to my plate. He usually makes all the food, but lately I just don’t trust him with my health and I should be able too. Why is it the one we love feel that when we try to make ourselves healthier that we don’t love them and are trying  to find someone else. Yes that is directly out of his mouth not in those exact words but you get the point. I need him to see it from my point of view. I need to lose weight. I need to be more out going if I am to beat this depression to dust. I need to see my husband try to make himself healthier( although I can live with what ever he choses I will support him in his choices). I need to be able to walk outside my front door and not have everyone telling me I am fat and need to lose 75 lbs.  I know that isn’t really all that heavy compared to some people.

I think this is about my self esteem, me in general, getting older is not for the faint at heart, sometimes I wish I was my younger self because I didn’t have all these aches and pains, varicose veins, wrinkles, white and gray hair. Heck I even know I am not that old being only 36.  Yet, I feel much older. I remember when I would ride my bike everywhere now I can’t even get down my drive way with out panting.  I don’t expect to myself to be younger though just be able to ride my bike to town if I want or walk about 5 miles and not pant and have to sit after walking half a mile.

I will need to sit down with my husband and tell him my feelings. Writing down thing always put everything into perspective.

 

School Is about to start

It feels as if the year has just passed me by that I am getting older by years in a matter of days.  It is just so strange to think that I have a 15 year old son and an 8 year old daughter and both are getting ready for school.  They both start tomorrow. One is going to be shell shocked because up until this year he has been home schooled and I am now sending him to a brick and mortar school. I think he just doesn’t understand his responsibilities and is hiding behind my skirts to get away from them or thinks that he can get around them some how and hide. These last few months have been about playing on the computer and seeing if he can get away from his home school work. I warned him now he has to face the music. Hopefully he will do as he is told.
My daughter can’t wait she is the social butterfly of the family the one that needs friends. Whom is out going enough to say mom I think I need to stay back a year so that she can learn to speak properly after having surgery on her tonsils to remove them.

Life move on day by day. But if feels like water slipping through my fingers.  But on word we trot toward the morning star.

Garden Update

My Garden looks horrible. The weeds have taken over, the striped beetles have eaten the tomato(more than the horn Caterpillars which I can kill easily), and pepper plants.

I will have to take cuttings from the tomatoes, lavender, and any other plant I want more of. The drought is just kicking my gardens butt.

I have a plan though to get it all under control. Starting today one step at a time.

Sorry I have been away

I have been going through a rough patch. I feel like myself again. What does that mean? Well, It means that I have something chemical imbalance or other wise that was bringing me down. I was going through a sort of depression for no reason other than I could not get myself motivated to get out of the bed. Of course now, I am more of my out going self and taking medication to help. I know that I missed several posts that I wanted to put in months ago about summer solstice and gardening, but I will have to make up for that. At the time I just couldn’t get myself to do anything but now I am back and will start putting out my posts again.

On Layer Gardening

Okay So I am an avid layer Gardener. I have only been using this method for about 2 years and so far I have to say I love it.  I have been using Manure from the cows  and horses in the area, grass clippings (mostly), leaves found at a neighbors yard, newspaper ( about 20 sheets cover well and then layered over each other to smother weeds),  compost, then another layer of either leaves or grass.  Sometimes it is just newspaper and grass clippings to which I then punch a hole in pat down the grass clippings and plant my plant works really well when bone and blood meal are added for nutrients.

I am still trying to figure out the crab grass and how to get rid of it but otherwise it works (mostly because It comes in from the sides of the yard or walk ways I haven’t covered yet).

On to plants, planting, and bug control

Okay, So this year I tried really hard to grow from seedlings I even started weeks ago. Yet,  to my horror and anguish I lost the cheap little green house I was using that would have helped me out greatly.  I lost many seeds, not just to the greenhouse blowing away but I also lost some to freezing temperatures(frost) and to my inexperience. I have had to buy my plants. And it is impossible to find plants that haven’t been treated with insecticide and/or fungicide and chemical fertilizer so I don’t try. I do plant seeds that are big like squash, watermelon, pumpkins, corn, beans, cucumbers, etc these seeds are really easily germinated and well I can do it with little fuss. I hope to try again with a green house but who knows when I will be able to get the money together to do so.

I do however practice companion planting. This is planting plants next to other plants that either attract beneficial insects or the bad bugs. Some can also sometimes kill harmful things such as nematodes (marigolds) or can actually kill the bug(pyrethrin flowers), or even attract bad bugs so as they stay off of the plant you want to keep. Many can enhance growing such as putting beans with corn the beans add nitorgen to the soil that the corn will need and adding pumpkins (the three sisters). The pumpkins shade the ground to keep out weeds making them easier to manage. You can also plant plants such as dill and parsley to attract butterflies (monarch to your garden). This takes a lot of research and I suggest people do this it helps  with the balance of bag to good bugs.  You must remember though not all plants like each other some will even  cause the death or stunted growth of some plants. So experiment use info from others but try this out.

Sometimes though the bad bugs tend to eat everything in their site till there is nothing left.  Which happened to be last year with a beetle I never encountered before. It was like all of a sudden they hatched and they hatched in such numbers that they where eating everything. I am still not sure what Type of bug they where and I could only make an educated guess as to them being a striped cucumber beetle.  I had to get pyrethrin spray and kill as many as I could but they decimated my tomatoes and pepper crops with numbers over the night before I found them in the morning.  This year I am more perpared since I also got tomato horn worms , cabbage lopers and such I am going to use Bacillus thuringiensis Which is excellent for killing  Caterpillars be careful when spraying so as not to spray other butterfly caterpillars in your garden and read the directions it works better overnight. I also get milky spores and beneficial nematodes to kill some bad beetles larva and beetles themselves.

I have thought about get certain types of beneficial insects and putting them in the garden from a catalog but I don’t think that would be a efficient use of my money being that insects are rather wandering and my garden is not enclosed to keep them in. Not to mention that during certain times of the year they may be without food.

Some helpful books are Rose love garlic, Carrots love tomatoes( my favorite), Great Garden Companions.

Some helpful websites with charts.

http://www.seedsofchange.com/enewsletter/issue_55/companion_planting.aspx

http://www.organicgardening.com/sites/all/themes/zen/og/pdf/companion.pdf

http://activities.byui.edu/married/pdf/Companion%20Planting%20Guide.pdf

http://www.hpfb.org/uploads/com_plant-chart.pdf

http://peaceofpreparedness.com/Resource%20Library/Gardening/Companion%20Planting%20Chart%20for%20Vegetables.pdf

http://www.yellowtractorprogram.org/files/veg_plant_guide.pdf

and many many others

Organic Gardening all about compost Part 3

Black Gardeners Gold.  Composed of everything Vegetable, herbivore manure(horse, cow, etc.)  and minerals. This is all your kitchen scraps, excluding meat and fats(including vegetable oils), and all yard waste except sticks and branches that haven’t been chipped plus if you have cows and such they add their nice pooh.  Many books and people suggest it be a combination of green and brown or as I say fresh and not fresh(dried out) Me I don’t really care about how much of each I put in there as long as it all gets in there. Some say that it needs to be air aided by poking holes it it with a tine or turning it you can do that too. I think it is just more work  for the same result although It may make it decompose faster. Me I just throw everything in it during the spring and summer months and right before I get ready to plant I pull everything off the top of a portion of an area ( mind you my compost pile is really large about 6 feet by 8 feet) and dig right in all the rich brown compost underneath that looks a lot like soil(which if you think about it is except it has a little extra organic matter and mineral matter from the egg shells and other stuff you throw in). Then I will put down a thick layer of either cardboard or newpaper (which keeps out the crabgrass which if it gets half a chance will over run the compost pile and then you have weeds in you beautiful Compost) and pull the uncomposted stuff back on top.

Compost should never smell bad  so if it does add more brown matter. This will cut the smell making more of a balanced pile. I know I wouldn’t want to work in my garden if all I smelled was something rotten it would turn me off to even want to be there.  SO if you have this problem most likely you have a lot of fresh ingredient such as cow manure fresh from the cow. Or sometimes it is just really soggy because you placed you pile in a area that floods during the rains and doesn’t drain all the way which means you probably need to fill that area with dirt from another area or need to build up the area by putting down bricks, a small concrete slab or rocks to help with this problem.

Native Worms love this stuff I always find babies in the compost. They also contribute there manure to the pile and contribute to the decomposing community that is trying to establish itself inside all that matter..

In April my pile has been know to heat up which I think is because of the rain and if you are like me because of all the grass clippings.  Sometimes I wonder if the pile will burst into flames it gets so hot in the middle from all the microorganisms breaking down the matter added to the compost.

So just remember to add all organic matter except meats and fats and your compost, water it occasionally during dry months. And you too will have a rich and beautiful compost to be used in the garden either as compost tea or around your vegetables and plants.

I hope you will stay tuned to my next segment on Organic Gardening.  And don’t hesitate to ask questions. I will do my best to answer them, because this a simple version of what you can do.

 

Organic Gardening Part 2

Soil. Yes I said soil not dirt. We have to build up our soil so that it is healthy. Humm… What do I mean by healthy? This is something that has perplexed me for sometime, but knowing myself well I knew I was just making it hard and difficult. So I stepped back and analyzed this from a more observational stand point and broke it down so that I understood what most people wanted me to understand.

What is soil? It is Organic matter (leaves, grass clippings,), microorganisms (nematodes, worms, fungus, bacteria,) and minerals (calcium, metals, and so forth). In a base such as clay, silica(sand) and silt. When put together and not disturbed for a while it forms soil. Which is really healthy for plants.  Oh I know there are some organisms that are not really healthy for plants but those can be beaten down in a way with planting certain plants such as Marigold(which kill certain nematodes), and other plants that help bring in nitrogen fixing organisms(BEANS).

I try to think of soil not being disturbed so how you might ask do I take care of the weeds.  Well one I pull them I know that disturbs the top layers but not the under layers. I don’t till because not only does that compact the soil making it harder for plants to grow their roots out it disturbs the community I am building in the soil. I take the approach of the forest gardener or lasagna gardener. I heap more organic matter on top the soil add a few things to amend it like bone and blood meal(made from dead animals I know but it is more organic then most fertilizers and adds calcium and phosphorus that tend to leach out of soil that being used by plants at the moment. )

So what is a forest or lasagna garden you ask.  Well to me it is Newspaper thickly applied to smother weeds (remember no tilling) then grass clippings, leaves, compost,  more clippings and leaves newspaper over this and finally more leaves. This left to sit for a month or two to compact it down then I plant in it. No muss or fuss.

So stay tuned for more information on Organic Gardening.

Organic Gardening

Okay so lately I have been reading up on how to Garden organically. It really isn’t that hard until you realize like me you live in an area that weeds are hard to keep down. Crab grass grows rapidly and is hard to keep up with unless it is covered up with landscape fabric and/or cardboard boxes even then it will have to be pulled from the garden paths that are covered by wood chips in.  Then there are the bugs. I don’t mind bugs there are good ones and bad ones but usually bad ones over take the garden. So I have been looking at the different ways to keep the bad bugs down and out of the garden and attract the beneficial bugs.  So I have compiled my knowledge and that of many other people to tell everyone newbies and oldies about different ways to Garden Organically without pesticides/ chemical fertilizers. I am going to make this a segmented piece. So watch for posts.

The Movement Against Women!!!

Warning this post contains the ranting of an outraged Woman!

Okay, I know I told you I am not a feminist that is true. Yet, When I see any man deliberately trying to hurt Women,  I have to Shout out my distress, my unrest, my total disbelief, call the police if it is appropriate. So as I have been reading about the republican actions against women in previous years I am disgusted. Reading  Stag Party  brought about my fear of what may happen is the GOP is put into power will they make every Women that gets pregnant have the child, will that child be born unloved in a family because not every child will be adoptable. Will woman die from Health problem because she can’t have the abortion she requires to save her life. Will our nation slide back into the idea that woman don’t need to work, need men to take care of them, that they make bad decisions, and have to follow what their father says. There are examples all over the US that not all women and men need to have children.  Will they take away our Birth Control. They think this about the right of religion fine have religious organizations not pay for health care. Have them give the women the Money to pay for their own health care that way they are not paying directly to the things that they don’t like the women are paying for themselves I believe that is a good way of fixing that problem then women as a whole can go about buying Health Insurance the way they want it and Men can stay out of that area.

Here in the state of Oklahoma the state legislature is wasting our money on laws that are being over turned left and right because they are unconstitutional one is the person hood bill which I hope they totally get rid of, because a baby isn’t a baby until it can survive out side the woman.  I mean what are they going to do to woman whose own body destroys the fetus charge her with murder.  Some woman can’t maintain a pregnancy what are they going to do to those whose baby dies in utero because the cord got wrapped around the neck or the women whom get full blown eclampcia and almost die and have the baby removed before it is even viable.  THE FETUS CAN’T LIVE WITH OUT THE MOTHER THERE FOR IT IS STILL A PART OF HER BODY.  I can just see these men wanting to look up a woman’s skirt to make sure she is keeping her legs closed. It is none of their business what women do to their bodies. If the man wants a child make sure he has sex with someone who want one also otherwise he better make sure he has protection. I don’t like abortion but I am not against someone getting it especially when there is rape, incest, or if they are underage (children shouldn’t have children).  The exception would be using abortion like a pill all the time. I do believe that if someone is going into get an abortion they should be taught about the pill and contraception options and where they can get these options for almost free before they have the procedure that would cut down on the number of abortions. Heck give them the option to be sterilized that would further cut down on unwanted pregnancy, but only if they are age 25 or higher.

I just can’t stand for people trying to dictate what is right for me. If some woman wants to be pregnant everyday of her adult life fine she can but I will not have anyone tell me how to run my life and family planning. If I had the money I would pay for my own health care and that of my families.  I already pay $300  out of  every pay check for it while my employer pays I believe it is $500. THAT IS A TOTAL OF ABOUT $800 A PAYCHECK OR $1600 A MONTH IN HEALTH CARE COST BEFORE I EVEN GO SEE THE DOCTOR.  I work for a Catholic Hospital and a few of the people I know are already having problems one can’t get her uterus removed (she has pain 24 hours a day for fibroid and other problems) and all she wants is relief. When they did go in they removed the very temporary problem instead of  removing it permanently only a couple of weeks after the surgery and she is having pain again even with the hormone (Birth control) Therapy she is receiving. Is that good care. I SAY HELL NO!! Some times Doctor should actually listen to their patients and not to the policies. Every person is different and can’t be put in a mold of one individual.

After all this I don’t think I will ever vote Republican in fact I hope that we can find candidates that coincide with the middle ground and with the people

Here are some links that may help with the Presidential elections coming up I hope you all will vote for Obama but live and let live vote for the person you find is more aligned to you. I just hope we get more people in office that are for all people instead of for the corporations and Religions. We need to do something about the people in office that are trying to undermine our rights.

http://billmoyers.com/episode/full-show-standing-up-for-democracy/#disqus_thread

http://nymag.com/news/frank-rich/gop-women-problem-2012-4/

http://sickthebook.com/

http://nymag.com/daily/intel/2012/03/barbarism-of-the-health-care-repeal-crusade.html

http://the99spring.com/

http://news.coffeepartyusa.com/

http://www.votesmart.org/ I love their political best match help you find the candidate that best matches your values.

http://www.npr.org/sections/politics/

http://thinkprogress.org/economy/2012/01/03/396428/santorums-racist-welfare-rant/?mobile=nc

http://thinkprogress.org/tag/election-2012/

http://www.cnn.com/POLITICS/

http://online.wsj.com/public/page/news-world-business.html?mod=WSJ_topnav_us_main

http://reproductiverights.org Here you can learn about the different law affecting people all around the world and how the changes in our laws would effectively bring about some negative changes for women.

 

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