What every Women should know about our rights!!!!

Up until very recently (I would say within the last 30-40 years) women had to ask there husbands permission to do anything. I remember when my grandmother told me in order for her to get her own bank account she had to have my grandfather there or they wouldn’t allow her to have a bank account. Even then she said they both had a hard time making the bank officials make it so that she was the only one on the account. I can’t remember why she needed her own account just that it was a savings account and papa said that she needed her own money. My Grandmother also told me a story of how she lost my twin Uncles because a Doctor wouldn’t listen to her and kept telling her everything would be fine, it wasn’t they died just days before they where born. I have read many women’s blogs on the internet about their stories of sexism in the workforce, blunt discrimination, utter humiliation, and other history I wish that wouldn’t have happened is still happening, and men that believe it even now in our own free country.

There are just a few historical areas I read (see the bottom of post). What I don’t understand is that in this day in age after women’s Suffrage, voting rights and education. That there are men out there that think that just because we don’t have a penis, have a mind, want to plan our families, make a name for ourselves, and do what we want with out a man around that they still want to control our lives, decisions, and try to make us beneath them in every way possible. I am just glad I am pagan and don’t believe all that other religious crap. My father is atheist and believes that every one of his girls (there are 4 of us) should be independent. Yes I have a husband but I am the bread winner of my family. I took birth control my children are eight years apart. I have several degrees of course they are all undergraduate degrees but that was all we could afford and one was by accident. My husband is not controlling he is supportive of me. I vote at every election I know about. I know about all the major elections. I tell my daughter and son that they both need to be self sufficient and not depend on anyone because it could happen I may not be there, or their husband or wife may not be there.

The Wikipedia definition of Sexism, also known as gender discrimination or sex discrimination, is defined as prejudice or discrimination based on sex; or conditions or attitudes that foster stereotypes of social roles based on sex.[1] Sexist attitudes are frequently based on beliefs in traditional stereotypes of gender roles. Sexism is not just a matter of individual attitudes, but is built into many societal institutions.[2] The term sexism is most often used in relation to discrimination against women,[3][4][5][6][7] in the context of patriarchyPatriarchy is a social system in which the male acts as the primary authority figure central to social organization, and where fathers hold authority over women, children, and property. It implies the institutions of male rule and privilege, and entails female subordination. Many patriarchal societies are also patrilineal, meaning that property and title are inherited by the male lineage.

Wow, when I read this I thought no wonder my Grandmother had to tell me her story. We were no more then Property and slaves back then even though in my Grandmothers time we had the vote, suffrage.

When men (politician men, religious men) don’t even know how the female body works and try to dictate policy on health, birth control, what is rape/incest and abortion with out consulting females themselves; I just want to scream ” THERE IS A WAR ON OUR NATION, A WAR ON WOMENS RIGHTS, A WAR OF CHOICE, A WAR ON WHAT IS RAPE and WHY OH WHY ARE THEY TRYING TO TAKE AWAY PLANNED PARENTHOOD WHEN THEY DO SO MUCH FOR THE POOREST WOMEN I EVEN USED THEM WHEN I WAS YOUNGER FOR HEALTH CARE….”( I can’t believe ,yet have to,  that there are men whom seem to think there is a such thing as  legitimate rape and that planned parenthood does only abortions which is untrue. ) *smirk*. MEN should not have the right to tell me what is best for my body without consulting me my husband consults with me about my health. I should be able to talk to my FEMALE doctor and ask her advice then should be able to consult with another doctor if I think I need to do so. I know men feel the same way why would they want women to direct the health care, their sex life if they need Viagra or any other medication, medical surgery for sterilization, and so on.

There are many other reasons to get an abortion, or to be on birth control other then the reasons that are officially given. The life of the mother (child birth is nothing to laugh at it is dangerous for women and many women die each year trying to have a baby) if it will save the mother I am all for it, if the mother wants to try to have to baby yet can’t make it till the fetus is viable and it will kill her and the baby. Take the baby. The woman’s life is more valuable than an unborn child, especially if she already has children.

Women every year find out they need birth control for problems other than for controlling whether eggs pop out such as fibroids, PMS, and other female problems of the uterus.

So although many people are trying to force the issue of taking women back to the days of suppression when we didn’t have rights. I am not one who will stand by and allow this to happen.  I have to write and speak. I don’t want to go back to when Men thought we were property. To when Men had everything and we had nothing. TO WHEN RELIGION SAID WE ARE NOTHING BUT VESSELS FOR MALES. I am equal. I am a female yes. But I a smart woman, mother, wife, and I can make my own decisions about my health, about whom I love, about my life will end up as. Because in the end we may be all judged, karma has a way of coming back to us all but the Goddess and God knows our circumstances. I believe that things happen for a reason and must learn for the reasons given for the choices made. We can’t make others choices for them they must make them for themselves. We can’t intervene in choices made by the individual about themselves all we can do is support the individual in their choice.

http://www.jstor.org/discover/10.2307/349851?uid=3739848&uid=2129&uid=2&uid=70&uid=4&uid=3739256&sid=21101163423051

http://www.dadsnow.org/index2.html this is a very interesting History

http://qwertyuiops.wordpress.com/2010/09/21/history-of-sexism-and-its-effect-on-religion/

http://rethinkinghistory.blogspot.com/2010/08/historical-roots-of-western-sexism.html

http://ncronline.org/news/politics/bishops-say-obama-compromise-unconstitutional

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/05/20/opinion/sunday/the-attack-on-women-is-real.html

http://www.post-gazette.com/stories/opinion/perspectives/well-it-is-a-war-republicans-have-tried-to-limit-womens-rights-at-every-turn-639149/

http://www.aljazeera.com/programmes/insidestoryus2012/2012/08/2012829103225925202.html

http://www.aljazeera.com/programmes/faultlines/2012/08/20128288841399701.html

http://www.post-gazette.com/stories/opinion/perspectives/well-it-is-a-war-republicans-have-tried-to-limit-womens-rights-at-every-turn-639149/?p=2

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/08/rep-john-conyers-violence-against-women-act-vawa_n_1499822.html

http://www.plunderbund.com/2012/05/23/what-every-girl-should-know/

http://www.dailykos.com/story/2012/03/01/1069980/-We-re-All-Feminazis-Now-Limbaugh-s-Long-History-of-Sexism

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/cifamerica/2011/jun/21/walmart-women-class-action

http://blogcritics.org/books/article/book-review-sexism-in-america-alive1/ hum will have to read this book.

http://www.wearewoman.us/2012/03/history-of-womens-rights-in-united_18.html

 

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The Movement Against Women!!!

Warning this post contains the ranting of an outraged Woman!

Okay, I know I told you I am not a feminist that is true. Yet, When I see any man deliberately trying to hurt Women,  I have to Shout out my distress, my unrest, my total disbelief, call the police if it is appropriate. So as I have been reading about the republican actions against women in previous years I am disgusted. Reading  Stag Party  brought about my fear of what may happen is the GOP is put into power will they make every Women that gets pregnant have the child, will that child be born unloved in a family because not every child will be adoptable. Will woman die from Health problem because she can’t have the abortion she requires to save her life. Will our nation slide back into the idea that woman don’t need to work, need men to take care of them, that they make bad decisions, and have to follow what their father says. There are examples all over the US that not all women and men need to have children.  Will they take away our Birth Control. They think this about the right of religion fine have religious organizations not pay for health care. Have them give the women the Money to pay for their own health care that way they are not paying directly to the things that they don’t like the women are paying for themselves I believe that is a good way of fixing that problem then women as a whole can go about buying Health Insurance the way they want it and Men can stay out of that area.

Here in the state of Oklahoma the state legislature is wasting our money on laws that are being over turned left and right because they are unconstitutional one is the person hood bill which I hope they totally get rid of, because a baby isn’t a baby until it can survive out side the woman.  I mean what are they going to do to woman whose own body destroys the fetus charge her with murder.  Some woman can’t maintain a pregnancy what are they going to do to those whose baby dies in utero because the cord got wrapped around the neck or the women whom get full blown eclampcia and almost die and have the baby removed before it is even viable.  THE FETUS CAN’T LIVE WITH OUT THE MOTHER THERE FOR IT IS STILL A PART OF HER BODY.  I can just see these men wanting to look up a woman’s skirt to make sure she is keeping her legs closed. It is none of their business what women do to their bodies. If the man wants a child make sure he has sex with someone who want one also otherwise he better make sure he has protection. I don’t like abortion but I am not against someone getting it especially when there is rape, incest, or if they are underage (children shouldn’t have children).  The exception would be using abortion like a pill all the time. I do believe that if someone is going into get an abortion they should be taught about the pill and contraception options and where they can get these options for almost free before they have the procedure that would cut down on the number of abortions. Heck give them the option to be sterilized that would further cut down on unwanted pregnancy, but only if they are age 25 or higher.

I just can’t stand for people trying to dictate what is right for me. If some woman wants to be pregnant everyday of her adult life fine she can but I will not have anyone tell me how to run my life and family planning. If I had the money I would pay for my own health care and that of my families.  I already pay $300  out of  every pay check for it while my employer pays I believe it is $500. THAT IS A TOTAL OF ABOUT $800 A PAYCHECK OR $1600 A MONTH IN HEALTH CARE COST BEFORE I EVEN GO SEE THE DOCTOR.  I work for a Catholic Hospital and a few of the people I know are already having problems one can’t get her uterus removed (she has pain 24 hours a day for fibroid and other problems) and all she wants is relief. When they did go in they removed the very temporary problem instead of  removing it permanently only a couple of weeks after the surgery and she is having pain again even with the hormone (Birth control) Therapy she is receiving. Is that good care. I SAY HELL NO!! Some times Doctor should actually listen to their patients and not to the policies. Every person is different and can’t be put in a mold of one individual.

After all this I don’t think I will ever vote Republican in fact I hope that we can find candidates that coincide with the middle ground and with the people

Here are some links that may help with the Presidential elections coming up I hope you all will vote for Obama but live and let live vote for the person you find is more aligned to you. I just hope we get more people in office that are for all people instead of for the corporations and Religions. We need to do something about the people in office that are trying to undermine our rights.

http://billmoyers.com/episode/full-show-standing-up-for-democracy/#disqus_thread

http://nymag.com/news/frank-rich/gop-women-problem-2012-4/

http://sickthebook.com/

http://nymag.com/daily/intel/2012/03/barbarism-of-the-health-care-repeal-crusade.html

http://the99spring.com/

http://news.coffeepartyusa.com/

http://www.votesmart.org/ I love their political best match help you find the candidate that best matches your values.

http://www.npr.org/sections/politics/

http://thinkprogress.org/economy/2012/01/03/396428/santorums-racist-welfare-rant/?mobile=nc

http://thinkprogress.org/tag/election-2012/

http://www.cnn.com/POLITICS/

http://online.wsj.com/public/page/news-world-business.html?mod=WSJ_topnav_us_main

http://reproductiverights.org Here you can learn about the different law affecting people all around the world and how the changes in our laws would effectively bring about some negative changes for women.

 

Women in Politics

Okay, So I am on a role about Women today, but I guess you can say I feel vulnerable today like my rights being a Woman are being trumped my the zealots of Religion  and Men at that. I WILL NOT Bow Down. Where are our Representatives? There are few women in Congress.  In fact I believe the house is made up of 17% women and the Senate is made up of yes only 17% women where is our representation? Men don’t run this country like they should in fact several Women in both houses are being disrespected by their male peers. Many of the issues brought up by these women are really important yet the issues are thrown to the back burner and then forgot by the majority of congress as unimportant.  I mean really the country is made up of at least 55% women that  means there are more women then men in this country. I know there are a lot of women and men for that matter whom wouldn’t do well because they stick their proverbial foot in their mouth but there has to be professionals out there that can speak and be heard by more people.

I would run, but I just don’t have the means to do so and I could be the one to stick my proverbial foot in my mouth. You have to walk on egg shells when running for a political office and well my family isn’t perfect. I am not a christian, I had many boyfriends before I got married and I am sure they would tell everyone that I am a jealous, angry woman  even though they haven’t seen me for 15 years. I am an introvert I care for others feelings but at the same time don’t really care for other feelings when I feel strongly about something. I am for abortion which would kill me  in the polls, I am for women’s rights,  the right to worship anyway a person chooses as long as it is not harmful to others, I believe in taxes its what keeps our roads and infrastructure going, I believe in Welfare as long as they either  go to school, get on birth control, and try to better themselves (I was on welfare for a short time before I got a good job and went to school), I am for regulation of major economic firms that can make the economy collapse, I think the wealthy should pay higher taxes trickle down economics doesn’t work and they put us in this mess to begin with, I believe that the Judicial branch is just as important as the congress (they need balance), I believe that congress should not make more then the averaged person so no more than 40,000- 50,000 dollars a year +  they should pay a portion of their health care like everyone else no freebies(the average person doesn’t get freebies we pay for everything including welfare, social security, Medicare and their salaries and healthcare), I believe that if you fight for this country that you should be able to get the most freedoms at least while you serve ( the freedom to be free of violence from your fellow country men and women (sexual assault is pretty prevalent in the Military for both sexes but especially for women) They should be able to get free healthcare),  I do believe we need to recycle more and treat the planet better because so far we aren’t leaving  here and our children, and their children have to live with the consequences when we pass, I believe we need to produce more of our own goods instead of buying it from china and other countries, if we buy from ourselves we support our economy, I think people should have the right to buy food from any safe source be it raw milk, or an animal butchered from someone else. The list can go on and on.

I am by no means a feminist. I am married to a loving caring man and we have two beautiful children.  I still think my rights as a person and women trump any religious organisation or morals a business has as to whether or not I get the health care I deserve and pay for, I believe women deserve a vote  because we make up 55% of the populous. WE NEED TO SPEAK OUT AND VOICE OUR CONCERNS.

Politics— Women’s Health Issues

I AM WOMAN HEAR ME ROAR!!!!

I hate it when an organization, any organization whether it be religious or other wise tells me that I can’t do something for my own personal health and well being. Take for instance Birth Control which has been in the news lately. I like the new health care law yes it needs tweaks, here and there  but what law doesn’t.  I like the fact that no employer can tell me no I can’t have birth control because it is morally wrong. Because it is my right to plan my own family and to make sure I don’t have a surprise child I can’t support.

If congress has their way so many things will happen I mean think about it what is morally against your beliefs. Would you say tell a smoker he can’t have health care for his cancer he now has from smoking because you never smoked a day in your life or a alcoholic that he can’t get medical treatment for his alcoholism. I know I wouldn’t but I am just that sort of person. I think the medical care should be free to everyone. I think Contraception should be free to all Women they don’t have to use it if they don’t want to but in the same breath no one should tell me I don’t have a right to it. I would rather women had access to Birth Control and Emergency Contraception than have an actual abortion. What about those women that are on contraception that would be affected by this MORAL RELIGIOUS MANDATE I think they would have had abortions rather than have that surprise child. Not that I am against abortion,  I personally wouldn’t do it unless medically necessary, but I think its not my right to choose what other women do. They must choose what is right for them.  Yet if Birth control prevents unwanted pregnancies from happening I am ALL for it it. Better than using abortion like birth control.