What every Women should know about our rights!!!!

Up until very recently (I would say within the last 30-40 years) women had to ask there husbands permission to do anything. I remember when my grandmother told me in order for her to get her own bank account she had to have my grandfather there or they wouldn’t allow her to have a bank account. Even then she said they both had a hard time making the bank officials make it so that she was the only one on the account. I can’t remember why she needed her own account just that it was a savings account and papa said that she needed her own money. My Grandmother also told me a story of how she lost my twin Uncles because a Doctor wouldn’t listen to her and kept telling her everything would be fine, it wasn’t they died just days before they where born. I have read many women’s blogs on the internet about their stories of sexism in the workforce, blunt discrimination, utter humiliation, and other history I wish that wouldn’t have happened is still happening, and men that believe it even now in our own free country.

There are just a few historical areas I read (see the bottom of post). What I don’t understand is that in this day in age after women’s Suffrage, voting rights and education. That there are men out there that think that just because we don’t have a penis, have a mind, want to plan our families, make a name for ourselves, and do what we want with out a man around that they still want to control our lives, decisions, and try to make us beneath them in every way possible. I am just glad I am pagan and don’t believe all that other religious crap. My father is atheist and believes that every one of his girls (there are 4 of us) should be independent. Yes I have a husband but I am the bread winner of my family. I took birth control my children are eight years apart. I have several degrees of course they are all undergraduate degrees but that was all we could afford and one was by accident. My husband is not controlling he is supportive of me. I vote at every election I know about. I know about all the major elections. I tell my daughter and son that they both need to be self sufficient and not depend on anyone because it could happen I may not be there, or their husband or wife may not be there.

The Wikipedia definition of Sexism, also known as gender discrimination or sex discrimination, is defined as prejudice or discrimination based on sex; or conditions or attitudes that foster stereotypes of social roles based on sex.[1] Sexist attitudes are frequently based on beliefs in traditional stereotypes of gender roles. Sexism is not just a matter of individual attitudes, but is built into many societal institutions.[2] The term sexism is most often used in relation to discrimination against women,[3][4][5][6][7] in the context of patriarchyPatriarchy is a social system in which the male acts as the primary authority figure central to social organization, and where fathers hold authority over women, children, and property. It implies the institutions of male rule and privilege, and entails female subordination. Many patriarchal societies are also patrilineal, meaning that property and title are inherited by the male lineage.

Wow, when I read this I thought no wonder my Grandmother had to tell me her story. We were no more then Property and slaves back then even though in my Grandmothers time we had the vote, suffrage.

When men (politician men, religious men) don’t even know how the female body works and try to dictate policy on health, birth control, what is rape/incest and abortion with out consulting females themselves; I just want to scream ” THERE IS A WAR ON OUR NATION, A WAR ON WOMENS RIGHTS, A WAR OF CHOICE, A WAR ON WHAT IS RAPE and WHY OH WHY ARE THEY TRYING TO TAKE AWAY PLANNED PARENTHOOD WHEN THEY DO SO MUCH FOR THE POOREST WOMEN I EVEN USED THEM WHEN I WAS YOUNGER FOR HEALTH CARE….”( I can’t believe ,yet have to,  that there are men whom seem to think there is a such thing as  legitimate rape and that planned parenthood does only abortions which is untrue. ) *smirk*. MEN should not have the right to tell me what is best for my body without consulting me my husband consults with me about my health. I should be able to talk to my FEMALE doctor and ask her advice then should be able to consult with another doctor if I think I need to do so. I know men feel the same way why would they want women to direct the health care, their sex life if they need Viagra or any other medication, medical surgery for sterilization, and so on.

There are many other reasons to get an abortion, or to be on birth control other then the reasons that are officially given. The life of the mother (child birth is nothing to laugh at it is dangerous for women and many women die each year trying to have a baby) if it will save the mother I am all for it, if the mother wants to try to have to baby yet can’t make it till the fetus is viable and it will kill her and the baby. Take the baby. The woman’s life is more valuable than an unborn child, especially if she already has children.

Women every year find out they need birth control for problems other than for controlling whether eggs pop out such as fibroids, PMS, and other female problems of the uterus.

So although many people are trying to force the issue of taking women back to the days of suppression when we didn’t have rights. I am not one who will stand by and allow this to happen.  I have to write and speak. I don’t want to go back to when Men thought we were property. To when Men had everything and we had nothing. TO WHEN RELIGION SAID WE ARE NOTHING BUT VESSELS FOR MALES. I am equal. I am a female yes. But I a smart woman, mother, wife, and I can make my own decisions about my health, about whom I love, about my life will end up as. Because in the end we may be all judged, karma has a way of coming back to us all but the Goddess and God knows our circumstances. I believe that things happen for a reason and must learn for the reasons given for the choices made. We can’t make others choices for them they must make them for themselves. We can’t intervene in choices made by the individual about themselves all we can do is support the individual in their choice.

http://www.jstor.org/discover/10.2307/349851?uid=3739848&uid=2129&uid=2&uid=70&uid=4&uid=3739256&sid=21101163423051

http://www.dadsnow.org/index2.html this is a very interesting History

http://qwertyuiops.wordpress.com/2010/09/21/history-of-sexism-and-its-effect-on-religion/

http://rethinkinghistory.blogspot.com/2010/08/historical-roots-of-western-sexism.html

http://ncronline.org/news/politics/bishops-say-obama-compromise-unconstitutional

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/05/20/opinion/sunday/the-attack-on-women-is-real.html

http://www.post-gazette.com/stories/opinion/perspectives/well-it-is-a-war-republicans-have-tried-to-limit-womens-rights-at-every-turn-639149/

http://www.aljazeera.com/programmes/insidestoryus2012/2012/08/2012829103225925202.html

http://www.aljazeera.com/programmes/faultlines/2012/08/20128288841399701.html

http://www.post-gazette.com/stories/opinion/perspectives/well-it-is-a-war-republicans-have-tried-to-limit-womens-rights-at-every-turn-639149/?p=2

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/08/rep-john-conyers-violence-against-women-act-vawa_n_1499822.html

http://www.plunderbund.com/2012/05/23/what-every-girl-should-know/

http://www.dailykos.com/story/2012/03/01/1069980/-We-re-All-Feminazis-Now-Limbaugh-s-Long-History-of-Sexism

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/cifamerica/2011/jun/21/walmart-women-class-action

http://blogcritics.org/books/article/book-review-sexism-in-america-alive1/ hum will have to read this book.

http://www.wearewoman.us/2012/03/history-of-womens-rights-in-united_18.html

 

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Women in Politics

Okay, So I am on a role about Women today, but I guess you can say I feel vulnerable today like my rights being a Woman are being trumped my the zealots of Religion  and Men at that. I WILL NOT Bow Down. Where are our Representatives? There are few women in Congress.  In fact I believe the house is made up of 17% women and the Senate is made up of yes only 17% women where is our representation? Men don’t run this country like they should in fact several Women in both houses are being disrespected by their male peers. Many of the issues brought up by these women are really important yet the issues are thrown to the back burner and then forgot by the majority of congress as unimportant.  I mean really the country is made up of at least 55% women that  means there are more women then men in this country. I know there are a lot of women and men for that matter whom wouldn’t do well because they stick their proverbial foot in their mouth but there has to be professionals out there that can speak and be heard by more people.

I would run, but I just don’t have the means to do so and I could be the one to stick my proverbial foot in my mouth. You have to walk on egg shells when running for a political office and well my family isn’t perfect. I am not a christian, I had many boyfriends before I got married and I am sure they would tell everyone that I am a jealous, angry woman  even though they haven’t seen me for 15 years. I am an introvert I care for others feelings but at the same time don’t really care for other feelings when I feel strongly about something. I am for abortion which would kill me  in the polls, I am for women’s rights,  the right to worship anyway a person chooses as long as it is not harmful to others, I believe in taxes its what keeps our roads and infrastructure going, I believe in Welfare as long as they either  go to school, get on birth control, and try to better themselves (I was on welfare for a short time before I got a good job and went to school), I am for regulation of major economic firms that can make the economy collapse, I think the wealthy should pay higher taxes trickle down economics doesn’t work and they put us in this mess to begin with, I believe that the Judicial branch is just as important as the congress (they need balance), I believe that congress should not make more then the averaged person so no more than 40,000- 50,000 dollars a year +  they should pay a portion of their health care like everyone else no freebies(the average person doesn’t get freebies we pay for everything including welfare, social security, Medicare and their salaries and healthcare), I believe that if you fight for this country that you should be able to get the most freedoms at least while you serve ( the freedom to be free of violence from your fellow country men and women (sexual assault is pretty prevalent in the Military for both sexes but especially for women) They should be able to get free healthcare),  I do believe we need to recycle more and treat the planet better because so far we aren’t leaving  here and our children, and their children have to live with the consequences when we pass, I believe we need to produce more of our own goods instead of buying it from china and other countries, if we buy from ourselves we support our economy, I think people should have the right to buy food from any safe source be it raw milk, or an animal butchered from someone else. The list can go on and on.

I am by no means a feminist. I am married to a loving caring man and we have two beautiful children.  I still think my rights as a person and women trump any religious organisation or morals a business has as to whether or not I get the health care I deserve and pay for, I believe women deserve a vote  because we make up 55% of the populous. WE NEED TO SPEAK OUT AND VOICE OUR CONCERNS.

Buncombe Board of Ed debate Pagans vs Bible Thumpers.

I know I said it Bible Thumpers those that have closed their minds off and have become fearful and full of hate for something so different as being Pagan. Angela Pippinger and several others went to a Board of Education Meeting to debate on friendly terms religious activities on the school grounds. Now several had very constructive things to say. And you can read about those from the Pagan Mom live-tweets news page. You can also read what lead up to this debate Patti Wigington Bibles Made Available at NC School, schools examine Religious policy, Fear and Loathing in Buncombe County., and here by Mrs. Pippinger herself.

Yet I have to say that for people to lose control and allow anger and fear to ride them is unreasonable and not very Jesus like at all from what I read in the Bible. I pray to the Goddess and God that people open their Minds, Hearts, Souls to the possibility that people have rights to believe what they want as long as it doesn’t infringe on what others believe. I always say to each his own. Why is it that people want to have others see their way instead of accepting and letting others live without fear of persecution.

Why is it that I feel most days like we are outsiders? I keep an open mind I am wholeheartedly American. I believe in our freedoms Why don’t other Americans. Our Constitution may have been created by our founding Fathers whom were Christian, But they were also the ones to decide that Religion had no place in Government.

SO I SAY allow no Hate to interfere, allow no ignorance to rule, allow everyone the rights to be free to worship the way they want to but leave it out of public School.