Our Bodies— Erectile Dysfunction

The last two years have been really hard on my husband and I. Why you ask? It is because my husband is Impotent he has erectile dysfunction. That all male dreaded word that should never be spoken… You probably are asking why doesn’t he use Viagra or Cialis or some other medical treatment.  Well, He can’t they don’t work unless he gets surgery to put in a prosthetic and he really doesn’t want to do that. We have tried other treatments He gets semi hard then loses the erection we tried the pump he says it hurt him ( and truthfully after sitting their waiting and pumping and waiting and hoping it doesn’t hurt when you get the band on it can be painful and a turnoff).

I went through all the stages of grief Denial, anger, blame/bargaining, depression,   acceptance. I am now at the acceptance portion of the grief I will never ever feel my husband that intimately again. I am now trying to find an intimacy that we can do to feel closer together.Finding that intimacy with a difficult man is very challenging. Yes my husband is the most stubborn person I know besides myself. I don’t think he has made it through all the stages yet and I really want to feel that closeness we used to have. So I have been looking through all the stuff on erectile dysfunction and  How to find intimacy with your partner. The biggest thing that stood out was to explore each others bodies. Trying to do that when the other person still feels very self conscious is frustrating. But I really am trying to be patient.  I want to explore and feel him explore but only time will tell.



  1. January 18, 2013 at 09:26

    erectile dysfunction is a shocking illness that claims us gents, I have category 2 diabetic issues and it is a continual battle

    • GreenWiccan said,

      January 29, 2013 at 18:12

      Yes from what I understand it claims many men over the age of 40 that have High blood pressure, and diabetes.

  2. February 10, 2013 at 17:20

    Thank you, but i must say that there are a few things i dont agree with. Thanks

    • GreenWiccan said,

      February 15, 2013 at 21:12

      What is it you don’t agree with? I would truly like to understand…

  3. February 11, 2013 at 00:23

    My husband is 53. He has got an enlarged prostrate and also erectile dysfunction. He has been looking at sex videos, daing sites and been to lap dance . This hs been very hurtful as I am a lot older than my husband and now feel that I cannot compete I desperately want him to love me and when things are bteers to have a a sexaul relationship . We have many arguments and thank goodness he has not left I tell him I love him but he never does and he is very short and sharp which he never used to be . How can I compete with much younger attractive women.

    • GreenWiccan said,

      February 15, 2013 at 21:34

      I would not take his action as a denial of his love but as a denial of his problem.. You both are going through the stages of grief my husband and I went through. He most likely isn’t trying to hurt you on purpose. You don’t compete with the younger women. You both need to sit down and have a heart to heart if you can. I know I still have trouble talking to my husband about this it is a very sore subject for him. He feels less a man.

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