I decided that I needed to learn more about Wicca. Every aspect. I may not believe in magic but that doesn’t mean that meditation, prayer, ritual and everything that goes along with it isn’t magical in someway or perhaps I just don’t understand what magic really is. Anyway I have started a book. I am pretty isolated where I live. Living in the bible belt there are not many pagans, Wiccans, druids, etc. that show who they really are. So I have always taught myself the Wiccan Way Through books. So When I Saw WICCA: A Year and A Day By Timothy Roderick I got this overwhelming feeling that I needed it. I usually go with my intuition on things so when I got some money together I went and bought it. I will try to tell you of my journey as much as possible but I don’t think I can express everything in words. When the time comes though I will try.
Up until very recently (I would say within the last 30-40 years) women had to ask there husbands permission to do anything. I remember when my grandmother told me in order for her to get her own bank account she had to have my grandfather there or they wouldn’t allow her to have a bank account. Even then she said they both had a hard time making the bank officials make it so that she was the only one on the account. I can’t remember why she needed her own account just that it was a savings account and papa said that she needed her own money. My Grandmother also told me a story of how she lost my twin Uncles because a Doctor wouldn’t listen to her and kept telling her everything would be fine, it wasn’t they died just days before they where born. I have read many women’s blogs on the internet about their stories of sexism in the workforce, blunt discrimination, utter humiliation, and other history I wish that wouldn’t have happened is still happening, and men that believe it even now in our own free country.
There are just a few historical areas I read (see the bottom of post). What I don’t understand is that in this day in age after women’s Suffrage, voting rights and education. That there are men out there that think that just because we don’t have a penis, have a mind, want to plan our families, make a name for ourselves, and do what we want with out a man around that they still want to control our lives, decisions, and try to make us beneath them in every way possible. I am just glad I am pagan and don’t believe all that other religious crap. My father is atheist and believes that every one of his girls (there are 4 of us) should be independent. Yes I have a husband but I am the bread winner of my family. I took birth control my children are eight years apart. I have several degrees of course they are all undergraduate degrees but that was all we could afford and one was by accident. My husband is not controlling he is supportive of me. I vote at every election I know about. I know about all the major elections. I tell my daughter and son that they both need to be self sufficient and not depend on anyone because it could happen I may not be there, or their husband or wife may not be there.
The Wikipedia definition of Sexism, also known as gender discrimination or sex discrimination, is defined as prejudice or discrimination based on sex; or conditions or attitudes that foster stereotypes of social roles based on sex. Sexist attitudes are frequently based on beliefs in traditional stereotypes of gender roles. Sexism is not just a matter of individual attitudes, but is built into many societal institutions. The term sexism is most often used in relation to discrimination against women, in the context of patriarchy. Patriarchy is a social system in which the male acts as the primary authority figure central to social organization, and where fathers hold authority over women, children, and property. It implies the institutions of male rule and privilege, and entails female subordination. Many patriarchal societies are also patrilineal, meaning that property and title are inherited by the male lineage.
Wow, when I read this I thought no wonder my Grandmother had to tell me her story. We were no more then Property and slaves back then even though in my Grandmothers time we had the vote, suffrage.
When men (politician men, religious men) don’t even know how the female body works and try to dictate policy on health, birth control, what is rape/incest and abortion with out consulting females themselves; I just want to scream ” THERE IS A WAR ON OUR NATION, A WAR ON WOMENS RIGHTS, A WAR OF CHOICE, A WAR ON WHAT IS RAPE and WHY OH WHY ARE THEY TRYING TO TAKE AWAY PLANNED PARENTHOOD WHEN THEY DO SO MUCH FOR THE POOREST WOMEN I EVEN USED THEM WHEN I WAS YOUNGER FOR HEALTH CARE….”( I can’t believe ,yet have to, that there are men whom seem to think there is a such thing as legitimate rape and that planned parenthood does only abortions which is untrue. ) *smirk*. MEN should not have the right to tell me what is best for my body without consulting me my husband consults with me about my health. I should be able to talk to my FEMALE doctor and ask her advice then should be able to consult with another doctor if I think I need to do so. I know men feel the same way why would they want women to direct the health care, their sex life if they need Viagra or any other medication, medical surgery for sterilization, and so on.
There are many other reasons to get an abortion, or to be on birth control other then the reasons that are officially given. The life of the mother (child birth is nothing to laugh at it is dangerous for women and many women die each year trying to have a baby) if it will save the mother I am all for it, if the mother wants to try to have to baby yet can’t make it till the fetus is viable and it will kill her and the baby. Take the baby. The woman’s life is more valuable than an unborn child, especially if she already has children.
Women every year find out they need birth control for problems other than for controlling whether eggs pop out such as fibroids, PMS, and other female problems of the uterus.
So although many people are trying to force the issue of taking women back to the days of suppression when we didn’t have rights. I am not one who will stand by and allow this to happen. I have to write and speak. I don’t want to go back to when Men thought we were property. To when Men had everything and we had nothing. TO WHEN RELIGION SAID WE ARE NOTHING BUT VESSELS FOR MALES. I am equal. I am a female yes. But I a smart woman, mother, wife, and I can make my own decisions about my health, about whom I love, about my life will end up as. Because in the end we may be all judged, karma has a way of coming back to us all but the Goddess and God knows our circumstances. I believe that things happen for a reason and must learn for the reasons given for the choices made. We can’t make others choices for them they must make them for themselves. We can’t intervene in choices made by the individual about themselves all we can do is support the individual in their choice.
http://www.dadsnow.org/index2.html this is a very interesting History
http://blogcritics.org/books/article/book-review-sexism-in-america-alive1/ hum will have to read this book.
While organizing my favorites, the web kind, (which mind you is a chore because if I did it to begin with it wouldn’t take hours). I started to think why didn’t I do this to begin with. Because of the type of person I am. I am one to get interested in something and just start the focus on that. Like now I am supposed to be organizing my favorites and decided to blog about it instead. Funny I know but I am just an idea type person. But I couldn’t stop myself.
SO anyway I was going through them and came across several sites on Being Frugal and Green and though I should share these others might like to know about these amazing places I found on the web while doing research on one thing or another. (Which by the way is always funny because my mind goes so many different directions I even have a journal so I can go back over those ideas that I have and see if someone has done it better or perhaps I can take some else’s idea and make it better.) Which I recommend to everyone; I even tell my children if they think of something write it down you never know if you idea is a good one until its thought out and wrote out. So check out these places
Also if anyone else knows of fantastic places on the web please share… ALWAYS interested.
http://ana-white.com/ DIY furniture place
An Oregon Cottage: How To Clean And Care For A Cast Iron Pan (Or How I Learned To Love Cast Iron) I have several and my hubby still doesn’t take care of them right *shrug* I try but I just put them away so he doesn’t rust them
Frugally Sustainable A good blog I love to read
How to make Hand Cream. Homemade Hand cream and hand lotion recipes I make my own recipes usually with just oils and beeswax and essential oil lavender.
Homemade Lip Balm | FIMBY this is what my lip balm looks like basically.
http://blogs.babble.com/family-kitchen/2011/09/10/10-recipes-everyone-should-know-how-to-make/ I tend to agree everyone should know how to make these recipes..
For Women ONLY area unless you really want to know Men!!!
Homemade Sanitary Pads | Hillbilly Housewife Yes I actually use these during my spotting times. During the heavy times I use a regular sanitary napkin because if I don’t it is a mess I am a really heavy bleeder for two days its almost like hemorrhaging.
The Drought has really taken it toll where I live in Oklahoma. I have been asking the Goddess and the God to give us rain for several weeks now. We have stared to receive rain. And I am Grateful. I am going to continue to ask for rain though because we still really need it.
I talk to the Mother more then I do the Father I feel we have a kinship. So when I am sitting around being calm I talk to her from my heart. Talk to her about how my day went. Talk to her about anything about the good and the bad. I ask her for water for the animals and plants. To help me provide for those that are in need.